Love Spells Disaster


Yes, putting love spells on other people is a thing, and I know it can be tempting.

But casting a love spell on a specific person is not only unethical, however it can and likely will wreak havoc for you in the long run.

Of course, if you’re in the throes of red hot infatuation, it may be difficult to imagine what could be so wrong with the person you’re crushing on feeling the same way about you. Well then, let me paint you some pictures.

Do love spells work? Yes. Can you cast a love spell to attract someone exceptional? Absolutely. That said, it's NEVER a good idea to cast a love spell on a specific person. Ultimately, when you do a love spell on a specific person, there are no good outcomes. 

Besides the major karmic backlash that you will almost certainly unleash on yourself, do you really want to take away someone’s free will so they will "fake" love you? Is turning a person into your robot love slave actually what you want? If the answer is yes, please be honest with yourself and see that lustful desire for what it is, forlorn and foolhardy. You deserve someone who actually loves you and legitimately wants to spend time with you.

Here are 3 scenarios that can happen if you don't heed my advice.


 What you send out energetically always comes back to you in some form, right? So in this scenario, when you cast the love spell, you cast it on yourself, too. That spell flies right back at you like a boomerang. So now, you both become magically, unnaturally obsessed with the other. Then you get into a really sticky, codependent, basically awful relationship. Maybe it involves violence. At the very least it involves emotional abuse, because overriding someone else’s free will is in itself a form of emotional abuse. So you put that in the mix when you did the spell, and now it’s there. And you’re stuck in the mire of that love spell like a swamp. Any healthy, fun, beautiful relationship you may have had isn’t even a possibility anymore, at least until you do some major magical damage control and extricate yourself from this mess. 


In this scenario, you cast a love spell on a specific person, and that person indeed appears to fall hopelessly in love with you. Annnnd now that they’re acting so foolishly ridicules, that they’re no longer attractive to you anymore. In addition to making this person miserable, now they also won’t leave you alone. Not to mention, as in scenario 1, since you overrode some else’s free will by casting a spell on them, you’re going to have to deal with some karmic backlash.


The best-case scenario, but still a bad one, is that you cast a spell on someone, and that unlucky someone successfully resists the magical pull to enter into a relationship with you. But your spell still boomerangs back and hits you, so you pine for this person much longer than you otherwise would have. You’ve now cast a spell of unhappiness on yourself. Until it wears off or the spell is successfully broken, this presents a challenge to your moods, your ability to focus, and any other romantic relationships you are (or may have otherwise been) involved with. However, the biggest and probably most likely issue will be the ability to open yourself up to unseen opportunities that are meant for you because you are now closed off. 

 As I mentioned above, you can still do a love spell! Just not a love spell on a specific person.

You can’t go wrong when you do a spell to draw ideal romantic conditions and leave the actual person up to the universe. Because if the object of your affection happens to be an ideal partner for you right now, your spell might end up working on them after all! …But if it doesn’t, that just means someone even more perfect for you is on his or her way. So there’s obviously no question that this is the way to go.

That being said, I know there are times when it can be tempting to cast a spell on someone to get them to think they adore and desire you just as much as you adore and desire them. That’s why I’ve assembled these 5 alternatives you can use in a variety of situations.


When you think you just have to have a certain person, the truth is, you want to be in a relationship with someone exceptional who authentically desires you just as much as you desire them. Of course, this person may indeed be the person you have in mind. But it may also be someone else entirely. This spell leaves the specific person up to the Universe, which always (always!) has the best possible results.

On a Friday when the moon is between new and full, anoint a pink pillar candle with sweet almond oil and roll it in sugar. Place it in the center of a fire safe plate. Sprinkle the petals from one red and one pink rose around the candle in a clockwise direction. Light the candle and say:

Just as I desire passionate and romantic love, somewhere a perfect partner for me desires the same.
Whomever/he is, I summon him/her now.
Come to me, lover, so we can delight in each other!
Universe, please bring my divinely designed love to me!
Thank you and blessed be.

Allow the candle to safely burn for at least an hour. Then extinguish and light it again as needed for fire safety (i.e. extinguish when you need to leave the candle unattended and relight when you return) until it’s burned all the way down.)


Of course, not all relationships are destined for greatness or enduring consistency. This ritual takes this into account, while giving your existing relationship a dose of healing and harmony. This will either speed its dissolution or revive its strength, depending on what is best for everyone involved.

On a full moon, place a small photo of you and your beloved in a small Mason jar. Mix equal parts honey and aloe vera gel, and fill the jar with the mixture, completely immersing the photo. Close the lid of the jar and place a tea light on top. Light the tea light and say:

What we need to heal, let us heal.
What we need to feel, let us feel.
Whatever is best for [name of partner] and me,
I summon this outcome, whatever it may be.

Thank you, thank you, thank you. Blessed be. And so mote it be.


Perhaps if you’re honest with yourself, you’re not really sure if you want to attract a relationship just yet. What you do know is you’d like to attract some romantic attention and ignite some flames (or even blazing infernos) of desire. Of course, you are naturally desirable, so you don’t need to override someone’s free will in order to do this. You can just bring out your own natural attractiveness.

Gently anoint your belly, heart area, and throat with sweet almond oil containing a few drops of essential oil of sandalwood or ylang ylang. Say:

With this sacred oil, I call now forth all of my charms.

Caution: be sure not to overuse this spell: doing it any more than once per moon cycle will dilute its effectiveness.


It’s possible that you are in an obsessive, abusive, or codependent loop with a particular person and you think a love spell will be just the thing to set the relationship right. Sorry, but it won’t. This spell will release the unhealthy aspects of the connection (known in metaphysical circles as “cords of attachment”) in order to help you move on and open up to a much healthier and more ideal romantic relationship. (In some cases, it could be the same relationship – just a healthier version of it.)

Starting the day after a full moon, take one bath a day for seven days. In the warm water, 

Dissolve 2 cups Epsom salt, 1 cup sea salt, and 1/4 cup baking soda. Before you get in the water, light a white candle and say:

Great Goddess, please purify me of all cords of fear and attachment to [name of person].
Thank you for healing me and setting me free.

Soak for at least 20 minutes each time.


Whether your initial desire to perform a love spell was born from a crush, a relationship with a current partner, or a past relationship, this spell will help bring about the best possible outcome for you and everyone involved. By trusting the outcome to the Universe instead of assuming you know what’s best, you gain access to a larger perspective, and one that takes everything into account: past, present, future, as well as unforeseen potential and possibilities.

On a new moon, bless a bracelet of rose quartz beads by placing it in bright sunlight. Say:

God/Goddess/All That Is, I desire passionate and harmonious love.
Please bring that love to me in the best possible way now.

Thank you for establishing beautiful conditions in my love life, completely, perfectly, and in divine timing.
Thank you, thank you, thank you. Blessed be. And so it is.

Wear the bracelet until you feel it’s completed its work.

Many Blessings 


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